From one former “smallest person in the room” to another, let me share something with you.
A Personal Journey
When I was 12, training up in Santa Cruz, I found myself in an interesting situation. Our academy was so new that it barely had a kids’ program. This meant one thing: I was training with adults from day one. Picture a preteen getting tossed around by full-grown adults – that was me.
Did I get smashed? Constantly. Was everyone bigger than me? Absolutely. Did I secretly love it? You bet I did.
The Unexpected Gift
Here’s something that might surprise you: being the smallest person on the mats is actually your greatest advantage in jiu-jitsu. I know this sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out.
Jiu-jitsu was specifically designed for smaller, less athletic practitioners to overcome larger, stronger opponents through leverage and technique. When you can’t rely on strength or size, you’re forced to develop pristine technique. While others might take shortcuts using their physical attributes, you’re building a foundation that will serve you for life.
Your Survival Guide: Three Essential Principles
1. Own Your Training Experience
Remember this: you have complete control over who you roll with. Never feel obligated to accept a roll that makes you uncomfortable. Starting with partners closer to your size isn’t just okay – it’s smart.
2. The Art of Progressive Challenge
Think of it like leveling up in a video game. Start with partners your size, then gradually work with slightly larger training partners as your confidence grows. Yes, you’ll face some challenges, but that’s where the real growth happens. The sooner you embrace this process, the faster you’ll progress.
3. Communication Is Key
Know what makes a great academy even better? Open communication. If someone’s going too hard or you’re feeling unsafe, talk to your coaches. We’re here to ensure you have a safe, enjoyable training experience. Don’t worry – we know how to handle these situations discreetly and professionally.
A Note to Our Larger Training Partners
If you’re blessed with size and strength and you’re reading this – remember that technical development benefits everyone. Focus on technique over power when training with smaller partners. Your own jiu-jitsu will improve dramatically as a result.
Looking Forward
The journey of a smaller grappler is unique and incredibly rewarding. While it might seem challenging now, you’re developing skills that will serve you for life. Trust me – I’ve been exactly where you are.
See you on the mats!
P.S. – Here’s the most valuable advice I can offer: learn to embrace the challenges. Getting comfortable with temporary setbacks while focusing on long-term improvement isn’t just good jiu-jitsu philosophy – it’s a life skill. Some of my best technical breakthroughs came after periods of getting consistently outmatched on the mats.
